Relationship Counseling for Individuals After Baby in New York
So, you had a baby, and now you resent your partner…
Trust me, you’re not alone. One of the most difficult times that couples navigate is early parenthood.
Maybe your libido has tanked.
Maybe you’re feeling “touched out.”
Maybe you just haven’t slept a full night in 3 months…
You have no energy for intimacy, or for deep conversations and connection. You’re exhausted and feeling crushed under the pressure of being the primary caretaker.
Something I often hear from women is that after becoming mothers, they suddenly resent their partners. They feel like everyone else’s needs are being met but their own, their baby needs them 24/7 and their partner is still seeking connection and attention.
Mothers often feel slighted in the split of childcare responsibilities; sharing that they feel under-appreciated, exhausted, and irrationally angry at their partners that their bodies haven’t changed, their mental state hasn’t plummeted, and they can sleep through a baby crying overnight.
The truth is, after baby, the birthing parent experiences a massive hormonal drop-off and changes to their DNA and brain matter. These biological changes mean that mothers are instinctually more likely to wake overnight with the child, sleep less soundly, and take on the majority of the comforting and feeding; things that the other parent simply does not experience. Support from their partners during this time is critical in reducing postpartum depression, anxiety, rage, and resentment.
If you can relate to this, I assure you, you are not alone, and you are not a bad person. I’m sure you never imagined feeling such disdain for your person. That person you love and admire is still there, but life circumstances have changed, and we need to adjust.
So… how can I help?
Nearly every couple endures this rough-patch after kids. But having the guidance of a professional can make all the difference in the quality of your relationship.
Learn to communicate your needs without causing a rift. Develop the ability to ask for breaks from home without fear of backlash. Openly discuss how you’re feeling without wondering if divorce is going to be a consequence.
You deserve this. You both do.
Meet Alex Quinn
Licensed Clinical Social Worker (#092864)
I’m a mom of 2 and a Maternal Mental Health Specialist with over 9 years of experience in the field. After graduating from NYU with a Masters in Advanced Clinical Social Work, I knew that being a clinician was truly my calling, but it wasn’t until a handful of years later that I understood the exact work that my heart felt drawn to.
In 2020, I gave birth to my first daughter and battled with postpartum depression and anxiety. With the help of a specialist, I clawed my way through those early days of motherhood, and knew from that point on, these were the women I wanted to dedicate my career to; the ones just like me, who loved their baby but felt crushed by the experience of motherhood.
I know that the days seem dark and long now as you move through the adjustments to this new life, but I am here to bring you comfort and hope that there are brighter days ahead. As moms, we are so conditioned to “do it all” and not ask for help, but I am here to tell you that doing so is the best decision I ever made for myself and for my kids. And it could be the same for you. Don’t do it alone. I’m here to support you.
Frequently Asked Questions
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Yes. As a mom myself, I understand that time is limited and convenience matters. I offer this model because it is what works for busy moms like you.
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Getting started is simple. Reach out through my contact form or click on the link for a free consult. We’ll walk you through the next steps and answer any questions along the way.
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I specialize in maternal mental health and all of the nuances that come up in motherhood. I have lived experience and have talked to hundreds of other mothers about their own experiences. If you are seeking support specifically with motherhood, postpartum, matrescence, parenting littles, or anything in between - I’m your girl.
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You can reach us anytime via our contact page or email. We aim to respond quickly—usually within one business day.
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I am an Out-of-Network therapist. I do not accept insurance but patients are welcome to contact their insurance providers to inquire about OON benefits for reimbursement of session costs.